Monday Morning Blues.
Monday, 21 September 2015
A letter from your bank, a critique of you and your partner unilaterally shoots down your plans.
Oh great Monday morning and it all happened in a few minutes.
Okay so the bank has to upgrade its services and that kyboshes your carefully laid plans.
You know the vicious critique may have grains of truth and the main objective was to undermine you again in a seventy year twisted hate and revenge plan.
Your partner gets carried away with a not so hidden agenda to get rid of something they see as too much effort and not the slightest of care about the fact that effort gives you pleasure, which matters to you.
Great; so what’s new!
The puzzling question is, why events happen early on a Monday morning.
Answering this question is probably as difficult as understanding the meaning of life.
A more important question is in understanding why these events trash your day, send your morale crashing and switch off your joy of life in ten seconds flat and then make you want to retaliate.
There are two golden rules in the world of media and unwelcome attacks for those in the public eye and that means you.
- Never retaliate unless you want the story to grow into something much bigger for your own advantage where you know you are 100% certain you can destroy your attacker. Otherwise let the story die by staying silent.
- Never publically attack a media outlet, they are just too strong.
The key to the Monday morning blues problems is those things stamp all over your beliefs and values in a milli-second flat.
The cause is that those beliefs and values have a number of powerful emotions so tightly welded to them they could tow a battle ship.
Because you see or perceive these events as negative, like attracts like and so they fire up all your associated negative emotional feelings.
In a matter of seconds you are hurting and wondering why the whole world hates you.
Now let us look at the positive solution to this or these problems.
First off, examine all these negative issues with a bit of brutal honesty. Anything less is going to undermine you and feed the Monday blues.
Find the positive.
The bank is just doing its job. Speak to someone to find out how the new rules can help your plans. The bank does not like unhappy clients so should do everything possible to make your situation even better.
As for the vicious critique, you know there is a grain of truth, so take the learning and make an effort to fix that problem if it is something to do with your performance. Separate truth from vindicative oppinion.The truthful piece of criticism may do you a favour, even so avoid going overboard with gratitude.
Second; by not retaliating you will drive your attacker crazy wondering what has gone wrong because your silence has stunted their nasty plan. Be sure; they will try again. You use the same strategy until they go away.
Your partner’s intentions were well meant for other reasons. Here you have just a tiny bit of the meaning of life. Life is a team game and even getting a small piece of it your own way is probably as good as it gets.
It is all in Robert P. Denton’s new book ‘High Performance after Burnout’ ISBN 9781512294705 is available at www.amazon.com or order from your local book store.
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