What Starts a Stress Episode?
Monday September 14 2015
You know that situation at work, in the office, that manager or busy body who cannot keep out of your department or that club member you would love to….. you know what I mean so let’s not talk about that.
The point is you promise yourself the next time you will stay calm.
As usual that next time it all goes pear shaped in seconds. You are all fired up and hot under the collar. You say things you know you are regretting already. A little while later you promise the next time you really will stay calm.
Have you ever wondered why you lose control of your cool so easily and cannot stop it?
The answer is internal stressors that automatically respond to key words, body language, values and the emotions that get tangled up inside your brain in less than one second.
Unravelling and mastering this complex process is a mammoth operation that quite frankly you will never likely get the better of.
Running away is no solution.
You could ask the person why you find them so destabilising and how they do that. This option especially the second part could prove interesting but likely cause other problems so you might not want to go there.
Consciously trying to stop that mental stressor breaking all over you like a bad rash is shutting the stable door after the horse has bolted. This is even if you decide what you are going to do long in advance.
There is a better way. It is quick, relatively simple and Oh yes; it – is – so – effective. That person will wonder what has happened. You will have totally spoilt their pleasure of messing with your mind and making you feel or look foolish.
The solution to the problem is in setting up a mental stressor detection. This spots the offending stressor triggers and related emotions. The stressor is then automatically neutralized.
This process is effective because they prevent those stressors from eventually getting to your adrenal glands.
In short this stops the production of cortisol pumping through your veins. You no longer verbally freeze in panic, become out of control fighting with words you regret later, verbally or physically running for the hills and know once more you have been ridiculed and usually in front of your friends or work colleagues.
You can break that cycle and stop all that from happening and it is not difficult when you know how.
When you learn how, you can set up as many extra stressor defences as you need to cope with new stressors that come into your life.
There is always a doubting Tomas who says, yes but that is avoiding your responsibilities. Oh no, quite the opposite; in doing so you have full control of any situation because you empower yourself to deal with any event carefully without limiting emotional stumbling blocks.
You can choose and deliver those perfect inoffensive stressor stopping words you have dreamed about but have always lost control before you could say them.
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This book explains how your thinking processes work.
Why stresses and stressors dominate your life and mostly you are not aware of the fact or extent.
Most importantly it also explains how you can change your thinking processes to take back control of happiness and abundance and put stress and stressors where they belong.