Stress is in Not Getting What You Want.

Thursday, 03 September 2015

The past two blog posts demonstrate how thinking patters are related to stress. In a nut shell, what you do want and not getting and getting what you do not want.

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If you take a long pragmatic and brutally honest view of your life, you see what you are getting in your life all comes down to the choices you made in the early days.

Some of those choices were of a special nature and are called subconscious ambitions.

Subconscious ambitions are choices you made; usually as a young child as a form of protection and then you instantly forgot about them until later in your life.

These limiting subconscious ambitions are the cause of limiting behaviours that control your thinking processes and thus the choices you made and make today. This process has a considerable bearing on the level of your stress also the amount of stressors you develop.

Everone is fighting themselves in some way or another but mostly completely unaware of why or for what reason.

Everone is fighting themselves in some way or another but mostly completely unaware of why or for what reason.

Limiting subconscious ambition behaviours are powerful because they are inextricably linked to emotions of fear or severe doubt.

Emotions are the most powerful of all motavative or limiting behaviours and habits. See the > Page on EMOTIONS < at the top of the >Home page<.

Watch this site for new post on how the >fear< element in >Subconscious Ambitions< causes below-par performance throughout your life.

Much of the choices you made depended on the life lessons guidance you received from your parents, uncles, aunts, grandparents, a mentor, hero or someone important that took a serious interest in you, your progress and your future.

This type of fundamental guidance comes mostly from first hand direct contact and especially emotional bonding with wise people who care for you and really do understand what life is about.

Reading about or hearing stories explaining your heroes and how they performed is good; but this type of induction into life has a bad habit of missing important facts and detail and the live personal interaction you get with one-to-one contact.

For many years parents have understood these principles. The challenges for the young frequently occur when there are heroes, bits of memories and fragments of their life stories.

What happens is the mind fills in the gaps and children are very good at imagination and filing those gaps with pure fiction. That fiction has a bad habit of becoming their idea of reality or ideal reality.

The big problem is that especially when there are more gaps than real and concise information. Then the child is at high risk of creating a fictitious impression of their hero or heroes. That leads to a distortion in their understanding of life and how to make the right choices, understanding consequences and creating productive futures.

The more the distortions, the more life mistakes, poor choices and the eventual stress and stressors those children will have to cope with in later life.

Everyone will make mistakes. The more good guidance you received in your early days, the fewer mistakes you will have made in your choices and decisions. This boils down to less stress.

In the next blog post we will look at familiar ways to manage stress and how they work.

If you have young children or you have friends with children and especially you know someone suffering with stress then tell them about these posts at

After that we will look at a completely different concept for managing stress you are using now for other issues in your life but do not realise how powerful it can be to control stress.

Robert P. Denton’s new book ‘High Performance after Burnout’ ISBN 9781512294705 is available at or order from your local book store.

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This book  explains how your thinking processes work, why stresses and stressors dominate your life and most importantly; how you can change your thinking processes to take back control of happiness and abundance and put stress and stressors where they belong.

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